As much as we like it, the coming of age somewhat make the older the obvious and the lesser even more obvious. I bumped into couple of former Miss Universe contestants and some of the pageant holder recently. One common consensus they have all given me was that they are losing their sex appeal! My jaw dropped when I heard that. the meaner tense in their mere words shows that what they felt with age catching on on them. fairly speaking, some of them has lost their sponsors on cosmetic products, they are hardly been mentioned during events etc and they seems to share the same sentiment that all these happening because they have lost their sex appeal.
Spending the 2 hours with them have tell-tale stories that was not within my fathom and the relic of their success is now written on their physique. Couple of the pageant holder never get married as when they found themselves to be too old for the activities that came with the title, they have also found out the other reality that they are too old to get married entice men to fall in love for them.
All these are beautiful women who was once successful and beautiful at the prime of their lives and all now have sadly withered away in time.
This is what happens when women don’t pride themselves above ‘sex appeal.’ There’s more to life than seducing a man & life has so much to live for when you live to do the things that bring meaning to yourself & the community around you. Surely, these girls haven’t been guided to pursue life other than the pursuit of landing with the ‘right’ man. I have titles that grace my shelves but I have my profession to bring the wonders of the ocean to people’s screens & getting them certified in the process. I don’t need to snag any man for that….
beauty comes at a price i guess..
Pummkin, Seduction is a reciprocal game! Most of them think that with a title, they can have fame and glory, and a future that they can depend on, While getting too much into those lifestyle and work in relates to their pageant title, it didn’t crossed their mind that once they have succumbed to age, and without any additional skill, their life is very much depending on the welfare of others who is willing to provide. Some of them never find one of such provider. The “losing the sex appeal” is the summation of one of the title holder. I couldn’t help but to ponder on what she said.
You can be an encouragement to them instead of stating the obvious that they are withering away. Knowledge is empowerment & what they don’t know, they can’t have i.e. opportunities, skillset, etc. Feeling sorry for them is one thing, if they are your friends as you call them, you ought to help them get a life & wean them of the dependence on titles & yesteryears’ glory. Get them to take up courses on make-up so that they can do private sessions for women or even join clubs or societies that can help them socialise & mix. Queens only sit on the throne & hold the title for one year, they should not be bound for the rest of their lives in a make-belief environment.
I don’t see them not been encouraged. That’s why they are in this pilgrimage to seek for themselves the courage they need to continue on with live. I was there to facilitate, I cannot offer a solution to them but rather to show them that coming of age is not the end of life. These beautiful people wanted to make a difference in their life and henceforth doing it in their own way. My notion is on their rant when they put them up on placard, all seems to be complaining about their depleting sex appeal!.